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Friday, February 29, 2008

Sheepish

Here is the breakdown of Thursday:
10-noon: Volunteering for Take Home Reading at school
noon-1:30: At hospital with Mike and his 2 pints of lung-sludge
1:30-2:30: Picking up food at Cafe Rio for Bubble Boy. Comfort Food makes it all better, right?...
2:30-3:15: Couch-time, talking with Mike
3:15-6:00: Picked up Max from school, took him to get his hair cut, grocery shopped, stopped at Wal-mart (Max talked me into it, to look for some #$^%&* game he's been saving for), stopped at Sonic for Mike's fav limeade, came home exhausted. I was in-&-out of the car all day, going here, going there, heaving my not-so-nubile self to and fro without cease. I'm finding that going non-stop is tiring when pregnant. Go figure.

So. I spent the morning (10am-noon) exchanging the books for the Take Home Reading program at the kids' school, at the end of which I got a call from Mike at the hospital, having been there from 8:30 'til noon, telling me the doctor was about the drain his lung. (Here are a few verbal memory-triggers: pneumonia, fluid-filled lung, Bubble Boy...)

Mike: "They're going to drain my lung now if you want to come."
Crystal: "Ok. It'll take me about 15 minutes to get there; do you want me to come?"
Mike: "If you want. They're ready to do it now."
Crystal: "Just start and I'll finish the books and be there in about 45 minutes."

About 5 minutes after hanging up the phone, I stopped in my tracks and thought, "WHAT? I'm so lame! He probably wants me to be there!" I called to find out where to locate him, but no answer; obviously, they'd already begun. I spent the next half hour sick to my stomach and feeling like a big jerk. When Mike called, I'd been so distracted with the #$^%& books and leaving them mid-process. And--in my puny defense--he was being a typical man-talker. If that had been ME about to undergo some surgical process, I would've said, "Please would you come be with me? I'm kinda freaked out."

So he calls me back after they're all finished and tells me where to meet him and that the Dr. still needs him there, etc. Now that I actually know WHERE to find him, I rush off to the hospital and when I get there he looks terrible. And tells me it was really creepy and he passed out. (and they sucked 2 pints of what looked like swamp water out of his body. blech)

Yes. I win the Wife Shmuck of the Year Award.




35 comments:

SuperCoolMom said...

Oh, we are so hard on ourselves! You are the fourth friend I've "talked to" in the past two days who has been feeling guilty about not being able to do it all! You can only do so much, and you went above an beyond today. He could have been more specific.

You are MAKING an entire respiratory system for heaven's sakes! Go lay down and take a nap. That teacher can stuff her own backpacks next week.

Holly (2 Kids and Tired) said...

Considering all that you do AND you're pregnant on top of it, I'd say you get Wife of the Year award. I'm sure he would say the same thing!! And you're right, they need to ASK for what they want.

Karen said...

I would think the blame would lay more with him. Men should learn to say what they want. And with your pregnancy hormones your brain was altered. I know. I've been there and failed to return.

Amy said...

OOOOHHHH Cyrstal, wow you are going through a lot. I hope that Mike is feeling just a little better with 2 liters of crap that came out of his body, I can only imagine the prettiness of it all. Don't be so hard on yourself, honestly you are doing everything you can AND MORE!!! You are such a cute little mommy and wifey and you know that Mike understands. Love your guts.

Cecily R said...

Crystal, you amaze me. First of all, I'm sorry Mike isn't feeling well, but I'm glad things are getting taken care of. And secondly, I miss that stuff sometimes too and feel like a slug when I figure it out. Sometimes I think I need Jon to be more specific and then I wonder how often I assume he'll know what I need too. Don't feel bad. You did what you could and I'm sure Mike was grateful for the time you were able to spend with him after the procedure.

Good luck with everything. I'll be thinking about you all.

Hazen5 said...

when I asked you to post something about Mike, I didn't mean this drastic! Poor Mike and poor you!

KATE said...

Oh I hope he's feeling better soon!
Don't beat yourself up, sometimes when you don't know how bad it's going to be thereis no point in sitting there with him.So you're not just fine, but perfectly NORMAL!

Okay really is he okay? What do you need? Dinner, watch Mimi? Tell me what you want me to do to help! I can do grovery shopping trips for ya. You let me know!!!

Crazymamaof6 said...

argh!
long , hard day. and way to go doing it all. you are super girl and prego to boot. bummer you missed the grody lung suckage. i'm sure you would have felt excellent watching that. and could ahve helped so much with the passing out. being sick is hard. and being a prego wife, extra hard.IMO.
specificity is apparently lost on men. hope he feels better soon. and hope YOU give yourself a big hug and let that self induced guilt go. hugs!

Jessica said...

Well that sounds pretty horrible! I hope that your family has a more relaxing day tomorrow, Crystal.

AutoSysGene said...

Sometimes we just don't know when we're needed. Your human, give yourself a break.

That lung sucking stuff is not fun. The did it to my grandpa and I almost passed out. ;)

I hope Mike feels better soon, he's been sick for quite some time now, huh?

Hang in there!!

Are You Serious! said...

Does Mike have pnemonia or something? I hope he starts feeling better. I'm the one usually being vauge and hoping Joe will get what I want him to do without having to actually ask him. Never works though! :)

John Lund has a great talk on cd called For all Eternity. (I got mine from Desert book) It's awesome, funny and he hits on a lot of different points...

Have a great weekend...

oda41143 Missy said...

Poor Mike and poor you. Illness can be almost as hard on the ones who take care of the sick as it is on the sick. I hope he is doing better. Draining a lung sounds serious. So, you know what I immediately thought of when you said Bubble Boy. The Seinfield bubble boy episode :)

carlo said...

oh my goodness. you have a lot going on, lady!!

hope your guilt eases...moms put too much pressure on ourselves.

and you braved walmart for goodness sake. how much can you take in a day?

kara jayne said...

We've all done something like that. don't beat yourself up about it. How he's feeling better!

Taylor said...

You should have gone to document the goo for your blog at the very least! Maybe your photog daughter could have snapped a few shots of the process.:)

Snap a photo of Mike taking a nice deeeeppp breath and get one of the smile on his face now that he can breathe again. Ahhhh, sweet, sweet oxygen.

-Taylor

Teresa said...

You must be feeling pretty bad. That's first time I've heard you use such foul language! :)
Make Mike a hot pot of something good and relax today. Sounds like you both need it.

Anonymous said...

I have so worn the Wife Shmuck of the Year hat- it never feels good but at least you are not alone with the title eh? Take care :)

Wendi said...

Baloney. You've been taking care of him 24/7 for over a month. You're a wonderful and very attentive wife. Hello--it's not like you were off getting a massage while he was at the doctor, you were volunteering at the school. You are just so nice you try to be everywhere for everyone. Mike's lucky. You take great care of him.

Laura said...

Just blame it on the pregnancy brain! you are only one person taking care of many other persons!!! I am sure you are the best!!!

Christie said...

Let go of the guilt. You're doing a lot and you shouldn't feel bad. I hope he gets feeling better soon. I've never heard of getting your lungs drained. Sounds horrible. I think I'd have WANTED to not see that.

Jessica said...

I HATE when I figure out too late that I flaked on something that was big deal to someone I love...but you know he understands!

Jill said...

You are NOT the Wife Schmuck of the year! You are a duty-filled woman who was in the middle of another have-to task, I would have done the same thing.

How do they drain fluid from a lung? Yikes that sounds gross.

It looks like you treated him very well the rest of the day. Really Cafe Rio and Sonic, that's some serious care.

Running errands is exhausting no matter what, so doing so while pregnant is above and beyond the call, no wonder you're tired.

Anonymous said...

Oh, I'm sorry... we are hard on ourselves... but he's a man, and he understood, I'm sure... they always do.

Karri said...

Don't you just wish they'd tell ya what they want!

Nat Nat said...

MEN! UGH is it so hard to just tell ya what they want you to do.

Love the saying: "If I am a stay at home mom then why does it feel like I live in my car?"

raising4boys said...

At least you made up for it later... I LOVE Cafe Rio and a Sonic sounds great too!!

kay said...

don't beat yourself up!! he knew you were busy and hello! you are a little pg. just give him something yummy for his tummy and all will be well!

put your feet up and rest!!!

The Webbs said...

You are always too hard on yourself! You are better than you think you are, you are awesome!!! Hope Mike gets feeling better, yuck!

Lauren in GA said...

Ohhhh, don't be too hard on yourself...you have a lot going on!!! I wouldn't have even clued in that he would want me there at all...at least you thought about it and tried desperately to find him!

megan said...

Don't be too hard on yourself!! I swear pregnancy makes your mind mushy plus it sounds like you are super mom! I hope that Mike is ok though. Take care!

kellyo75 said...

Oh Crystal. You are doing so much for everyone. He probably should have been more clear if he wanted you there. Don't feel too bad. I am sure he understands. Hugs, girl...get some rest. It sounds like it's very very needed.

patsy said...

Crystal!~ I haven't looked at your blog for a while... what the heck is going on there? Your husband is in the hopital- I am so sorry to hear that?

Hey you are amazing get all that done, pregnant, surely stressed!!
You take care of yourself girl- my thoughts are with you!

Desiree said...

Everything is crazy right now. You are doing awesome. Don't listen to the hormones.

Cara @ Gardenview Cottage said...

I would have done the exact same thing. So don't feel bad. I had no idea they could suck fluid out of someones lungs. gross! I hope he feels better soon and I hope you do to! He loves you - don't wory!

chloe said...

Man-talk...that's good.

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